Mummy is my Stylist..

I often get asked where I buy Shaliah’s outfits and people often think I buy expensive clothes. Not true!

To be honest I do not have one specific store I buy from. I try my best to support local small businesses and always keep my eyes open for those end of range sales. I’m a cheap skate and only buy name brands when they’re on sale. My husband also has a very good eye for what’s trendy and buys some very cute and stylish items on Ebay or when he is traveling.

I do not have a specific style in which I dress Shaliah. I like unique, cute and girly outfits. I have a thing about outfits matching with shoes and accessories.

I categorize her clothes in piles as follows: Clothes for school, for church, to play in at home and for when we go out. I normally buy her clothes for school from Ackermans. I love their two pack items as it helps save some money. For cute and trendy outfits, for when we go out I buy mostly from Mr Price . For cute outfits for church, I look at Boho Chick Empire, Rabbit Kids and The Little closest and items hubby buy. Clothes to play in at home is normally the worn out clothes from the school clothes pile. I also buy from Spree online.

In all honesty I do not think one needs to spend a fortune on clothes for children. It’s all in the way you style the items that’s in your child’s cupboard.

Below are a few of my favorite more recent looks. Click on image for more information on the look.

Thank you for reading.

Please share your kids fashion tips.

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Celebrating 2 Years of life!!

I know it’s been forever since my last post and this is a throw back post lol. Don’t judge!

So much has been going on and our bumblebee is keeping us on our toes.

We celebrated Shaliah’s 2nd Birthday on the 26th August. I swear as soon as she turned two it seems as though she received a reload of energy. It’s like she completely transformed. She is busier than ever, is talking our ears off and we’re busy potty training. O and did i mention she’s keeping us busy? Ok vent done………

Birthdays are very special to me and I always try to celebrate them. We celebrated Shaliah’s 2nd birthday with a Teddy bears picnic at Holmeleigh Farmyard. Holmeleigh farm has an amazing party package and it’s not even that expensive. The package includes venue hire, tractor or pony ride and farm tour. The host was the best I ever had, so helpful and friendly. We just loved the venue and had so much fun with the theme. The venue and theme complemented each other perfectly.

My dear friend and sister Eridene Coltman offered her event planning skills and helped me put together the most memorable birthday party. She was just amazing and help me bring my vision to life. She listened to me and was so patient with my demands and requests. I can’t thank her enough.  She even coordinated the program and kept the children busy. How awesome is that??? Bonus was Shaliah adores her and was so comfortable with her that she even went on the farm tour with Eridene giving me a chance to chat to the moms while the kids went off on the tour. Eridene’s amazing husband Maverick took the most stunning pics. Thanks guys! Check out their blogs here http://journeywithdeenah.co.za and here http://maverickcoltman.co.za

Enjoy the pics….

PS: Advise on how to cope with a busy 2-year-old is more than welcome.

 

 

Happy, Healthy Pregnancy UNTIL……

We had a fairly happy and healthy pregnancy. I say We because I feel like we were both pregnant since hubby went through all the feels with me.

I didn’t have morning sickness and didn’t suffer any of the severe pregnancy symptoms until the third trimester. My doctors appointments was normally quick because I had no complaints and all the doctor’s checks were usually satisfactory. I sometimes wondered if there was something wrong with the doctor because he could never find anything wrong with me or the baby. Just shows how paranoid a person can be. It’s like you’re always expecting the worst thing to happen to you right?

My darling husband always made sure that my pregnancy cravings was satisfied. I practically lived off Strawberry Super M, Peri-Peri Chicken Livers and Avocado toast. He made sure to stock up on those. Date nights we only went to Spur so I can have either the peri-peri chicken liver starter or the steak topped with peri-peri chicken livers. Poor guy, the sacrifices he had to make.

Happy, Healthy, Pregnancy until the dreaded Third Trimester!!!!!

My hands, face and feet were swollen. I couldn’t even take a few steps without gasping for air. Cramping legs in the middle of the night, indigestion and sleeping in a sitting position. That is a summary of the third trimester of my pregnancy.

Then, the scariest day of my life……………….

I had my 33 week check up coming up on a Monday afternoon. The Sunday before I felt very uncomfortable and my stomach muscles felt like it was pulling together. Initially I thought it was just the baby moving around because sometimes it felt like her head was under my chest. I just carried on as normal, rubbed my bump and told myself I’ll tell the doctor at my checkup the following day.

At work the Monday morning I started having cramps. I ignored it and carried on working throughout the morning and waited for my appointment. I remember casually asking my colleague if its possible to get braxton hicks twice during pregnancy. Throughout my pregnancy I seldomly felt my baby kick or move as she was facing towards my back. She was laying in a posterior position so I couldn’t even tell if she was “OK” or not.

That afternoon I drove myself to the doctor. I had to park across the road from Greenacres hospital and it was raining. I ran across the road with a 33 week bump and stomach cramps so that I could get out of the rain.

I sat in the doctor’s room waiting my turn with two expecting moms before me and both of them looked like they were in labor. I just sat there calmly and by that time the cramps were so painful I could barely sit on the chair.

Then it was my turn to see the doctor. I told him how I felt and he examined me. He couldn’t believe I was so calm as I was in a worse state than the expecting mothers before me and they were practically jumping up and down. He told me I was in labour and immediately sent me up to the maternity ward to do some tests.

IN LABOUR!! WHAT?! REALLY?! HOW?! but I’m only 33 weeks pregnant and how did I not know I was in labour???

This is when I phoned my husband and told him not to panic and that I’ll give him an update later.

I went back to the doctor with the results. The doctor examined me again and said that I was completely dilated and in full blown labour and that the baby could be born at any time. The doctor couldn’t understand why my water didn’t break. To make matters worse, my baby was breech and normal birth was not an option. I wanted to have my baby naturally {insert ugly cry}.

Needless to say I was admitted to hospital.

Hubby and I
This is the only picture we have together with my bump. We scheduled a maternity shoot but I was in hospital on the scheduled date.
Bump Pic
28 weeks pregnant and one of my favorite bump pics.

Hope you enjoyed reading this post. Read more about this in my next post.

Please tell me about your pregnancy.

 

 

Natural Hair Critics!

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When I decided on keeping Shaliah’s hair in its natural state, I never thought about all the negativity that would come with it. All I wanted to do was care for her hair and have it as healthy as possible. I was never ready for all the disgusting looks and rude remarks that comes with it.

Caring for natural hair is difficult in itself without having to deal with all the negativity. So please people stop it!! No wonder there are so many broken and insecure women out there because society is not making it any easier with all the shamming that’s going on.

Below are just few questions and remarks I received on this journey so far:

  • “Rozanne wanne doen jy iets omtrent die kind se hare?”
  • “Hoekom vleg jy nie die kind se kop nie?”
  • “Kyk hoe droog is die kind se kop.”
  • “Oooooh sy lyk nogal oulik in dai hair style neh.”
  • “Haar hare is nogal lank neh, dit groei darem mooi”

I decided that I would do everything in my power to teach Shaliah to love her hair and to be comfortable in her own skin but most of all to love herself just the way she is. When she’s old enough to understand, I will teach her that people’s opinions doesn’t matter and that she doesn’t have to conform to anyone’s beauty standards. She just need to be herself.

With the natural hair community growing, it has become more acceptable to wear ones hair in its natural state and I’m very thankful for all the natural hair ambassadors out there who are truly embracing their hair and fighting for the movement. These are women my daughter can look up to one day and who will help make this journey easier.

I can only imagine how hard it must have been for all the people who went natural before it was a “thing”. I’m so grateful that my daughter won’t have to go through that.

Shaliah might decide to straighten her hair with chemicals one day and that will be ok with me. The most important thing is that she loves herself and that she won’t conform to anyone’s standards.

So until then I’ll continue educating myself about her hair and nurture it!

Toddler Natural Hair Care (4A Type Hair)

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Long Post Alert!

Shaliah was born with the most beautiful, tight curls I’ve ever seen (yes, I’m biased lol). Everyone used to say she got her beautiful head of curls from her dad.

IMG-20151207-WA0012(Shaliah at about 4 months)

I’ve always admired my husband’s curls. He was pretty much my hair crush since forever (those who know him will understand why) until my little bumblebee of course. I fell in-love with her tight curls and decided to do research on how to care for her natural hair.

Two years ago there wasn’t such a wealth of information out there and natural hair products were practically non-existent in South Africa. I had so many questions and couldn’t find anything in the shops to use on her hair. I searched on Google, Facebook and Instagram but couldn’t find much information. I came across some very helpful blogs but my saving grace was a Facebook page called Chocolate Hair Care. I’ve learned so much on this page. If you would like to know how to take care of your daughter’s natural hair, do yourself a favor and join this page. The lady running the page is so knowledgeable and responds almost instantly to questions one posts on the page.

The past two years of caring for Shaliah’s natural hair have been trial and error. I’m still learning about her hair and what works best for her hair type. I’ve learned that the key to caring for natural hair is to understand what hair type you or your child has and to then use oils and products that works best for that hair type.

Shaliah’s hair changed from those cute tight curls to coily, high porosity hair.

Traits of high porosity hair:
  • Absorbs too much moisture, but is unable to retain it.
  • Looks and feels dull and dry.
  • Generally damaged and over processed with torn cuticles (but not always)
  • Tangles easily because the cuticles get caught on each other.
  • Hair dries quickly.
  • Tends to be frizzy

I’ve learned that she has 4A type hair.

4A

I’ve also learned that the best way to moisturise this hair type is to use below oils.

 

My Birth Story!

I was admitted to hospital at 33 weeks pregnant with a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). The infection caused preterm labor.

[UTI’s are more common during pregnancy because of changes in the urinary tract. The uterus sits directly on top of the bladder. As the uterus grows, its increased weight can block the drainage of urine from the bladder, causing an infection.]

I was already fully dilated and the doctor didn’t want to risk sending me home as I could give birth at anytime. He wanted to keep my baby inside for as long as possible.

After a week of treatment the infection didn’t go away. The 25th of August 2015 the doctor informed me that he’ll have to take the baby out as she’s at risk of getting the infection.

My heart dropped…I went numb.

I sobbed and gathered enough courage to phone my husband. When I heard his voice the words couldn’t come out.

Our baby was going to be born on the 26th of August 2015 at 34 weeks gestation. All I could think about was whether she’ll be OK.

The pediatrician I chose and the anesthetist came around to talk me through the process. The pediatrician explained that since my baby is at 34 weeks gestation she’ll have to go to NICU for a few days or weeks depending on her progress. They scheduled a tour of the NICU so that I wouldn’t be overwhelmed when visiting my baby the first time.

Our baby girl was born at 9h45 26 August 2015 weighing 2,32kg. She didn’t cry when she was born and had us all worried. There was a deafening silence in theater.

Then she sneezed!! That was the most amazing sneeze I’ve ever heard. The silence immediately broke.

I couldn’t hold or see her as the doctor handed her to the pediatrician almost immediately. It all happened so fast.

The pediatrician shouted from across the room “don’t worry she’s OK, she’s just one of the quiet babies”. I think he could sense our worried as my baby didn’t make a sound. They took Shaliah to NICU and I went back to the ward.

I just wanted to see her face, touch her and smell her but I couldn’t as I had to lay flat on my back for at least a day.

I had to be satisfied with looking at pictures of my baby girl and hear from her “Proud Daddy” how cute and tiny she was. Needless to say I wished the day away just so I could meet my baby girl.

Finally the day I get to meet my baby girl for the first time. I couldn’t wait for the nurse to come and help me up. I walked to the bathroom as fast as a person who just open surgery could and freshened up. I was so determined that I forgot about the pain I was in.

I was going to see my baby girl!!!!!!!!!!!

I felt a little nervous as I approached NICU. I wasn’t sure what to expect even though everyone told me my little girl was doing very well. As I entered I looked around to see where she was laying. A very polite nurse directed me towards her little bed. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw man!! There was my little girl. The most beautiful sight ever! Her tiny little frame all curled up. She looked so peaceful. The motherly instinct kicked in immediately and I reached down to pick her up so I could give her a BIG squeeze and give her a million kisses. She was just so perfect!! The nurse stopped me dead in my tracks. (insert ugly cry). I couldn’t pick her up yet. I was so sad I didn’t even hear why I couldn’t pick my baby girl up. I sat down next to her and rubbed her soft skin gently. I sat next to her tiny bed for the rest of the day, rubbing her and singing lullabies.

More of my experience as an NICU mom in the next post.
Please share your Birth story.

My Birth Story!

I was admitted to hospital at 33 weeks pregnant with a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). The infection caused preterm labor.

[UTI’s are more common during pregnancy because of changes in the urinary tract. The uterus sits directly on top of the bladder. As the uterus grows, its increased weight can block the drainage of urine from the bladder, causing an infection.]

I was already fully dilated and the doctor didn’t want to risk sending me home as I could give birth at anytime. He wanted to keep my baby inside for as long as possible.

After a week of treatment the infection didn’t go away. The 25th of August 2015 the doctor informed me that he’ll have to take the baby out as she’s at risk of getting the infection.

My heart dropped…I went numb.

I sobbed and gathered enough courage to phone my husband. When I heard his voice the words couldn’t come out.

Our baby was going to be born on the 26th of August 2015 at 34 weeks gestation. All I could think about was whether she’ll be OK.

The pediatrician I chose and the anesthetist came around to talk me through the process. The pediatrician explained that since my baby is at 34 weeks gestation she’ll have to go to NICU for a few days or weeks depending on her progress. They scheduled a tour of the NICU so that I wouldn’t be overwhelmed when visiting my baby the first time.

Our baby girl was born at 9h45 26 August 2015 weighing 2,32kg. She didn’t cry when she was born and had us all worried. There was a deafening silence in theater.

Then she sneezed!! That was the most amazing sneeze I’ve ever heard. The silence immediately broke.

I couldn’t hold or see her as the doctor handed her to the pediatrician almost immediately. It all happened so fast.

The pediatrician shouted from across the room “don’t worry she’s OK, she’s just one of the quiet babies”. I think he could sense our worried as my baby didn’t make a sound. They took Shaliah to NICU and I went back to the ward.

I just wanted to see her face, touch her and smell her but I couldn’t as I had to lay flat on my back for at least a day.

I had to be satisfied with looking at pictures of my baby girl and hear from her “Proud Daddy” how cute and tiny she was. Needless to say I wished the day away just so I could meet my baby girl.

Finally the day I get to meet my baby girl for the first time. I couldn’t wait for the nurse to come and help me up. I walked to the bathroom as fast as a person who just open surgery could and freshened up. I was so determined that I forgot about the pain I was in.

I was going to see my baby girl!!!!!!!!!!!

I felt a little nervous as I approached NICU. I wasn’t sure what to expect even though everyone told me my little girl was doing very well. As I entered I looked around to see where she was laying. A very polite nurse directed me towards her little bed. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw man!! There was my little girl. The most beautiful sight ever! Her tiny little frame all curled up. She looked so peaceful. The motherly instinct kicked in immediately and I reached down to pick her up so I could give her a BIG squeeze and give her a million kisses. She was just so perfect!! The nurse stopped me dead in my tracks. (insert ugly cry). I couldn’t pick her up yet. I was so sad I didn’t even hear why I couldn’t pick my baby girl up. I sat down next to her and rubbed her soft skin gently. I sat next to her tiny bed for the rest of the day, rubbing her and singing lullabies.

More of my experience as an NICU mom in the next post.
Please share your Birth story.

Where it all started……

We were trying for a few months to fall pregnant and was actually worried that something was wrong. We went to the doctor to get ourselves checked out and everything wasn’t ok with me. The doctor diagnosed me with PCOS. It’s basically a hormone imbalance causing cysts on the ovaries. The doctor gave me treatment, I faithfully took it and we forgot all about it.

After a month or so I wasn’t feeling well and decided to buy a pregnancy test without really thinking about it to hard. I was so casual about it. I bought a box of two since we were trying to fall pregnant and thought if it’s negative I can save money and keep the extra one handy.

That evening I went to the bathroom and did the test…………

IT WAS POSITIVE!!!!!!! YAY!!!!!

I screamed silently and jumped up and down in the bathroom since there were other people in the house. lol

I couldn’t believe it and did the test again and I still couldn’t believe it. When my husband got home I showed him the two POSITIVE tests and told him that I will make an appointment to see the doctor in the morning to confirm.

We got an appointment in the same week and when we did the scan I was already 9 weeks pregnant. We could hear the little heartbeat, it was the most beautiful sound I’ve ever heard. We could already see a little human forming, what a precious sight. We couldn’t believe it. It was such an overwhelming moment.

Currently going through all the feels all over again (sniff sniff).

We decided to do a photo-shoot to announce our pregnancy and gender to our friends and family as well as on social media. _MG_6249

 

Finding out we were pregnant came with such a rush of emotions and it was definitely one of the happiest moments in our lives.

Hope you enjoyed reading about how our little bumblebee came into our lives.

What was your reaction when you found out you were pregnant?

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